Forget Paris

< Forget Paris >

   

Background: 1995 American romantic comedy movie

Director: Billy Crystal

What do you think about love? What would you do for the one you love?

 Love is an abstract feelings that connect to each other. Each person has his or her own understanding towards "LOVE". Love is the key to start maintain a relationship, to build a family, and to accompany each other in the rest of our life. 

There are a huge difference between love and like. Love means you truly accept and feel attractive after knew about their imperfections and flaws; yet, like is just because he or she has some characteristic or physical appearance that attracted you to approach them. 

Love is long term and selfless. It gives you courageous to conquer every difficulties and hard time with your partner. Love is about loyal and commitment; however, the person we loved is also the one who hurt us the most. This is because we opened up our self-defense and get close to them, we show our weakness and flaws to them because we trust them and believe that they will accept all of our imperfections and will not leave us. Once we are betrayed by the love one , we feel hurt and it is pain instead.  

                                     

Nowadays, most of the people are very open minded. They are no longer think that getting a partner and marriage is a MUST in their stage of life. I agree with that. As long as you feel happy and satisfied with your current status and clearly know that what you want and who you want in your life and it will be alright. Teenagers or some of the people who urge to get in marriage without having discussion about each other future plan might have some problem afterwards and we should not rush ourselves to get in a relationship. In addition, for those immature people always hold to their past and it is difficult to move on and continue to their relationship. Just like the topic of this movie, "forget Paris". Both main characters met each other at Paris. For them, the week they spent in Paris was the sweetest and memorable moment in their life. If they keep on holding to the memories and tried to apply it every moment, your partner will be stressed and tired to this relationship because what past is past and no one can change for it. Like example, Mary's boyfriend used to talk sweet words to her but a year later Mary found that her boyfriend are not longer talk sweet words to her and complaint that her boyfriend are not good enough. What I want to say is Mary's boyfriend had being mature enough and he protects Mary in another way. This doesn't mean that Mary's boyfriend are not longer in love with her anymore. Through our maturity state, everyone have different mindset about love and that does not mean your partner had change. 

Trailer of Forget Paris

Strictly Ballroom

Strictly Ballroom

Background: Australian romantic comedy film (1992)

Director: Baz Luhrmann

< Strictly Ballroom> has pointed out current society phenomenon- social conformity. According to social psychologist Johnny Rocco, most of the people follow rules as they afraid others might look them as a weirdo. Just like the theme of this movie- “courage”, is the lack for most of the people as we afraid to take the risk for failure and be different. We hope to have a better, different life but at the same time, we afraid of making changes. We choose to be obedience, compliance and follow rules as we scare to step out from our comfort zone and not dare to face unpredictable situations. We give up easily while being threatened or scared.

Think of the name of this movie- ‘Strictly Ballroom’. Dance, is kind of art, a way to express feelings and emotions. It should be freestyle, creatively and randomly. However, the words “strictly” just like a cage trapped the freedom soul. Our inner self- hope to dance freely and creatively but we afraid to break the rules as no one did that before. So we force ourselves to follow the majority as we do not dare to defend our right, afraid of failure and being treated as weird.

The main character in this movie, Scott is a talent dancer who prefers to dance in his own style. At first, he tried to break the tradition, ignore others opinion, dance what he wants. However, when the moment he realizes that what he did might affect his family reputation, he began to hesitate. His partner, Fran is a brave girl who dares to challenge herself. Her life quote is ‘Life with fear is a half- lived’. This quote impressed me. Yeah, we only lived once. Why should we live our life by following others rules instead of living in the way we chasing? Why should we waste our precious time on fear, disgust, depressed… those negative feeling. Why should we let other decide and affect our life? Fran used to be a not important character in the dancing studio. She was just a beginner dancer. However, she dares to ask Scott, a professional and talented dancer to be her dancing partner to participate an important dancing competition and in the dancing style that not approve the rules. Transformation of her is biggest. From unknown character until a dancing queen, she influenced Scott to insist his dream. Instead of physical changes, her inner change is more obvious. Her confidence and passion towards dancing affect Scott a lot. 

                                   

                                                   Trailer of Strictly Ballroom (1992)